SWAG for LIFE: October 2011

today, i was talking to a co-worker who works with our swag team (yes we all work together, we are that awesome) about how he is thinking of taking the plunge and being serious with one girl. he was telling me how he doesn't believe in relationships because it would be hard for him to find mrs. right. i told him that i understood this feeling. whatever it is he chooses to do i'd be a supportive co-worker and listen to his stories and thoughts.

as a single twenty-something, i find that most people, especially those who are in a relationship, can normally only ask you one question.

"so who are you dating?!"

or

"you went on a date with that guy, how did it go? are you going to marry him?"

why does every conversation you have, have to be revolved around a dating life? can't it be more like "how's your pet unicorn?" or "how's being amazingly awesome going for you?" no instead it is all about finding that person who becomes your other half. honestly, it is one of the things i dread when talking to someone who isn't a part of my life on a day, or week, basis. true, i am dating, but i find it odd that has the be main topic. i am in no rush to find mr. right and i enjoy my freedom. as a sagittarius, we love our freedom and anyone who tries to tame us ends up a with a broken heart or face. just sayin.

yes i did just refer to my sign. i'm one of those people.

i feel as though being a single woman in her twenties makes me an old woman whose ovaries are going to dry up and i will be past the age of bearing children. no man in their right mind would ever want to be with a woman whose eggs have disappeared. it will be like i have leprosy or something. especially in utah. where marriages are more common than going to the movies. almost all of my girlfriends from high school are married with one+ kids. guys, i've been graduated for five years. FIVE YEARS. that's it. how sad is it that i'm one of the only ones left!? in the rest of the world i'm in my prime! i'm living the dream. but here? in utah? i'm an old maid left with "slim pickins"

one of my favorite time periods of my life was when i was dating three guys at the same time. we were not exclusive so no cheating was going on. i don't do that, nor do i support it. i was in control, in charge and living the best of all worlds. don't get me wrong, i'm sure one of them would have ended up being a great boyfriend, but i just wasn't feeling it. as time has gone on, i've been foolish and landed myself into a few relationships which has lead me to where i am now. a little bitter to love and enjoying the time of being completely 100% reliable on myself.

being single has many advantages, as does being in a relationship. as for now, i am enjoying the single lifestyle and the next time someone asks me who i'm dating i'm going to come right out and say ryan reynolds. we have a secret love affair and he flies me out to see him on movie sets and we have crazy mad love making sessions in his hotel. the reaction will be priceless.

xoxo - missy.